3–4 year old children’s social development
Compared with the score at the age of 2, the 3-year-old is less selfish and less dependent on you. This is a sign of strengthening self-identification and feeling safer.
Now he actually plays games with other children and cooperates with each other instead of playing by himself.
In the process, he realized that not everyone thought exactly the same, and each partner had a unique personality.
Some are likable and some are nasty.
You will find he is more cautious playing with some children and starts to develop friendships with them.
In the process of building friendships, he will find that he also has some characteristics that people like-this discovery has a profound supportive effect on the cultivation of his self-esteem.
There is some better news for the child’s development at this stage: changing the child’s increased and sensitivity to other people’s feelings and behaviors, he will gradually stop competing and learn to cooperate with each other when playing together.
In the group he began to learn to play and share toys in turns, even if he did not always do so.
Now usually he can ask in a civilized way, instead of making a joke or screaming.
Therefore, you can expect your child to play more peacefully and peacefully.
Usually 3-year-olds will take turns to play or exchange toys to resolve the dispute on their own.
However, you must encourage this cooperation at the beginning.
For example, you can encourage the use of language instead of violence to deal with problems. When two children share a toy, remind them to take turns.
When both children want the same toy, the goal is a simple solution that might cause him to take turns playing or find another toy and activity.
Although this method is not always effective, it is worth trying.
Help your child use appropriate phrases to describe his emotions and desires, and avoid frustration.
What’s more important is to give him an example of how to settle the dispute peacefully. If you have a bad temper, you should avoid getting angry when your child is present.
Otherwise, he will imitate your behavior when he feels suppressed.
However, no matter what you do, your child will often renew his anger or frustration into a fight.
When this happens, avoid him from harming others and separate him from other children if he cannot calm down quickly.
Talk to him and try to figure out why he is so annoyed.
Let him know that you understand and accept his feelings, but let him understand that fighting is not a good way to express these feelings.
Help him consider the problem from the other child’s perspective by reminding him of other children’s beating or screaming at him, and then suggesting that he solve the problem in a more peaceful way.
Finally, after he understood what he did wrong-not before, ask him to apologize to the other children.
However, just saying “sorry” may not help him correct his behavior.
He also needs to know why he regrets it.
He may not understand quickly, but a 4-year-old may have begun to supplement the meaning of these explanations.
In fact, the normal interest of 3-year-olds helps to minimize fighting potential.
Most of their playing time is the army’s favorite activities, which often require cooperation.
As we have already seen, preschoolers and their partners often play different roles in the game and then enter fictional plots using imagination or home objects.
Such games can help children develop important social skills such as taking turns, caring, communicating (through actions, expressions, and text) and responding appropriately to the actions of others.
There is another benefit: because camouflage games can enable children to play any role they want, including Seaman, airy women, Superman, and mythical fathers-it can also make children explore more complex social thinking, such asStrength, wealth, compassion, cruelty and sex.
Observe the child’s role in the fictional game, and you will also understand that he has begun to determine his gender.
So when playing at home, boys play the role of father and girls play the role of mother, reflecting that they have noticed the differences between their family and the world around them.
At this stage, boys become fascinated by their own father, brother or neighbor’s older boy, while girls imitate mother, older sister or other girls.
Studies have shown that some significant developmental and behavioral differences between boys and girls are genetically determined.
For example, in general, preschool boys may be aggressive, while girls are more refined.
However, many genetic characteristics at this stage are easily influenced by cultural and family background.Even if parents are both working and sharing equal family responsibilities, children will find traditional male and female roles in the family from television, magazines, books, billboards and the homes of friends or neighbors.
For example, advertisements encourage girls to play with dolls. Good-hearted relatives will give gifts to each other in turn. Adults and other children will also do this behavior. At the same time, people will instruct boys to stay away from dolls (which they used to like very much in the toddler),Army is more rough and clumsy games and movements.
The girl who likes to fight is called a tomboy, and the boy who likes to fight is called strong or stylish.
The children’s opposition to these statements should not surprise people and regulate their behavior accordingly.
Therefore, when the child reaches the age of entering kindergarten, he can reset his genetic characteristics well.
The identification process of children of this age often goes to extremes. Girls insist on wearing skirts, polishing nails, and putting on makeup when going to school or going to coach; boys walk with high toes, are overconfident, and fake guns when they go out.
This behavior reinforces his male and female identities.
In the early years when children know their gender, they are destined to have some gender-neutral attitudes and behaviors.
There is little reason to suppress a child’s urges and behaviors unless the child strongly refuses to establish this cultural standard.
For example, if a boy insists on wearing skirts every day, you should calmly persuade him to wear more traditional clothes.
However, if your child persists, you need to consult with your pediatrician.
Children also imitate certain behaviors that adults consider sexual, such as coquetry.
If his expression is very exaggerated, you can suggest your child to read and engage in activities to distract him, but these alternatives are your thoughts, not hiss.
A child of this age does not have a mature sexual concept, and his behavior is only a dramatic imitation, so don’t worry.
But if his imitation of sexual behavior is very obvious, or if he has been exposed to sexual behavior, you should consult your pediatrician to see if it is a sign of sexual abuse.